What kills romance?

My girlfriends and I were taking and came to the conclusion that our wedding day was the happiest day of our lives. We truly believed that our breathtaking romance will last forever but after being just married for a couple years some of us lost the way to our happily ever after. So, what happened to that saying ‘love will conquer all’? Doesn’t love live here anymore?

Seriously, let’s be honest. How many of us were not feeling sorry for ourselves and thinking about our marriage as a big mistake? Recently one of my acquaintances whom I met through our mutual friend said that she is so fed up with her husband that the only thing she wants is to live alone with her children. By the way, her husband makes good money, has good temper and he is very supportive to her in every way. But apparently, something happened in this couple’s happily ever after, something left to say.

Maybe our romance is fading away the same way as the color on those old black and white photos. Maybe our married life becomes a boring routine with no place for surprise anymore. Because every single day we do the same things, well maybe in reverse order but still, first and the most important we feed our children then we clean, wash, cook, bake or do other housework. Do not forget, we all have day jobs too. We also have to take the stress at work with our male bosses and back home with our losers husbands.

I have a friend, she is the only one in her family who makes money and pays the bills and her husband doesn’t work. That would be okay, people have sometimes rough time, except it continuous almost for five years. And what do you think she gets in return? Recently her in-laws advised her to take a second job and her husband always accuses her that she is cold and never in the mood, I assume he means sex. Don’t you think that such married life would kill even a good romance?

We, women are also responsible for boosting our man’s ego but God forbid you ever make him feel like a loser because instead of finding a real job he will stick in the depression  stage for the next five years. But I am so surprised that even the losers with no jobs, no money, and no responsibilities still in demand these days. I have seen by own eyes how those men were flirting with other women like roosters over some chickens who is not even close to their wives.

And yes, when the night comes we also have to be seductive and sensuous and hot to fulfill our man's  sexual fantasies because otherwise there is always a good chance that our honey husbands would start looking for it outside of marriages.

Recently my reader has wrote in her comment ‘I became a"mommy" after my kid was born...both to my child and my husband and I don’t like it’.

Here it is the answer to our biggest question about what kills romance. We don’t like to be mommies or babysitters to our husbands. Because being a mother for our children means always giving, protecting, loving your child more than you love yourself and nothing expecting in return but we cannot love our husbands the same way.

We want to be surprised and nourished and  impressed. We want to see husbands who cares  about us and our financial well being, because we are tired of having constant insecurity; and yes, we want prosperity for our kids and ourselves and I cannot see anything wrong with that. But most of all we want our husbands be a man and take responsibility because love will not be able to conquer all if you will not help us keep our romance alive, we cannot do it alone, not for five years!

Amen, sister!